50 -year -old men talking to 20 -year -old women

*Compulsory statement of «not all men, not all women»*

Women are supposed to listen. And there is an action taken on that assumption of men to speak. And speak. And speak.

And speak.

There are many lonely men along the way, taking advantage of their chance to make a solo trip, take a vacation of their life and realize that being alone on the stinking path. They find someone more lonely on the road who is willing to establish a conversation (sometimes initiated by a single question or even a visual contact fraction), and unleash flooding.

Some men may seem of the quiet guy with few thoughts until they sit in front of you at a picnic table and you greet mnh2.

My friend Mountain Dew is a good listener, so this happens a lot. In the last city, it was thrown by 3 men in approximately 24 hours, one of whom was an angel of very significant paths that offered to let her stay at home at night. He joked that the listening session in which he was trapped was his payment by room and food. I think sometimes he enjoys it, knowing strangers and knowing extravagant characters wherever I go, but I know it’s also exhausting. His problem is that he will be friendly and ask someone whom he has just known to talk, then he will be told for an hour about the history or aspirations of someone’s life. I can listen to it now in the shelter while I shield in my hammock, listening carefully during the last 30 minutes (at least) a man who speaks about his experience on this path and in others while she angry in a comment or thought every 5-10 minutes. Usually, I listen from afar, preferring my own company or that of my family friends instead of locking myself in an active listening session with a stranger if I can help him. Sometimes I divide to try to give it a way out if I can say that you are getting tired of maintaining the unilateral therapy session.

But it is not always escapable. Even along the way, people will find ways to absorb alcohol or other drugs of their choice and become more talkative, now with the intensity of someone desperate to be heard so that they do not travel too far in their internal depths.

In the last shelter he was (one that expressly asked the guests not to drink or drugs in the facilities), a hiker (probably in their 30 years) came drunk and wanting to speak. I was alone in the litera room trying to catch up with things on my phone that I reserve when I have wifi. In it comes, looking for someone, preferably a woman or another person with whom she feels attracted to speak. Luckily, I guess I have good eyes and I am a good listener. I quickly had to redirect it to sit in any place other than my bed, then I made sure that I did not vomit anything, then I did my best to make sure that I did not have an existential crisis that would lead him to a mental advantage in his time to speak. Everything turned out well, but I was aware that the situation could have become dangerous if this man leaned towards violence, so I made sure we had a pleasant conversation with redirections to dig his childhood at the present time.

There are many people who need help along the way. People who do not know what else to do with their lives and who can feel the way will be the answer to their feelings of loneliness, feelings of getting lost or feelings of fading by meaning. For some, the path responds to those problems, and some of those people return to the path again and again to pursue that feeling of satisfaction. But above all, it seems that people are in the same situations in the forest that would be found anywhere else.

The path provides a lot, including many strangers to interact. I do not know what the point of this publication is, except to provide a small look at the world of a solo woman along the way. Mainly it is fine, and most men see someone who believe they need protection, and passenger greeting on the path is usually «staying safe» instead of «happy paths» because they know that there are people who point to women alone in the forest. Fortunately, we have not had any problems like that, and most of the time we feel upset about the assumption that we must remind ourselves to be sure instead of reminding us that we have fun that colleagues can receive.

As someone who apparently has the ability to listen, I receive the same treatment as my friend Mountain Dew. The difference for me is that I agree to get away from a conversation in which I do not want to be, or I will be a little more forceful when breaking up to direct the conversation to something I want to talk about. You have to be more obvious about it with some people who do not take clues. I have seen my male friends in the experience of the path to be trapped in conversations too, sometimes it is fun to see them fight to escape, throwing all the excuses and redirection they can to a man in his 50s who do not know how to breathe. Once again, I will sometimes become the exit, throwing a «Hello guys, weren’t we … walking north today?» In the mixture just to advance.

Of course, I am simplifying this phenomenon too much with the title of «Men in their 50 years talking to women of 20 years», since the characters at stake can be any genre and any age. But it happens that most of the time they are men later in their careers or approach retirement in a rest of normality looking for something, they often look for it through a woman’s company (like the man at the picnic table with Mountain Dew this afternoon). The retired men I have known seem happier and less needy of someone to talk to. Maybe that is another excessive simplification, but I think it guarantees a study.

Of course, in bad days, we all need someone to talk to, and we can all be that someone for another person needs it. Sometimes, however, you just want a break of being the person to whom everyone tells the story of their life. If that is you, hiding in your store or hammock is always a good decision. Or simply learn to get away with an educated «I’m sorry, I have to go.»

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